Baby Advice from a Recovering Perfectionist…

My little guy is a little over a month old now and my God, it has been such an incredible learning experience. As all mothers know, raising a child is hard. The worries, the sleepless nights, the constant crying that pulls at your heart strings… motherhood is most definitely not for the feint of heart! But that innocent and content face and those inquisitive eyes make it all so worthwhile. It still boggles my mind that I actually cooked this guy up for nine months and now he’s this living, breathing, beautiful little person. Just…WOW.

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What surprises me most of all, however, are the many things I have discovered about myself in the process. The boundless patience and newfound ability to calm myself down, the incredible instinct to nurture and protect, the desire to be the best that I can be while allowing myself room to make mistakes, and the amazing capacity to thrive on little to no sleep! Don’t get me wrong, deep down inside of me is still this person that strives for perfection, but luckily the more logical, sane, and imperfect part of me has taken the drivers seat.

So, from one new mom to another, here are a few words of advice from a recovering perfectionist:

1. LET IT GO. That mess will still be there for you to clean tomorrow. Your post-partum belly will not disappear in a day, a week, or even a month. And your precious little package (aka…baby) will not die if slightly off his feeding schedule. Instead, get some rest! TRUST ME. Letting it go is the best that you can do for yourself and for everyone around you. (And sometimes I need to learn to take my own advice…!)

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2. Speaking of a feeding schedule, and for those that are breastfeeding: DON’T PANIC if your babe doesn’t feed by the books. I still struggle with this one, but it’s imperative to your sanity and peace of mind. Putting it nicely, most babies become pretty darn vocal when hungry. If they seem perfectly content after a feed, and if they are gaining the appropriate weight, there is no need to freak out. This said by the Queen of Freaking Out.

3. DON’T BE AFRAID. I’ve heard stories of mothers that are too afraid of making one little mistake to handle their own baby. Fortunately, babies are malleable, squishy little creatures. They are meant to be handled, cradled, snuggled, and often contorted into awkward positions. They will be ok, and so will you. Just give them that hands on comfort they will inevitably crave…and scream for.

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4. Watch out for what I have dubbed as the “MONSTER PHASE.” It is something I am currently experiencing and I cannot understand for the life of me why this phenomenon isn’t more often vocalized by mothers around the world. For all you newbies and moms-to-be out there, if you think you have a quiet, sweet baby…just wait until the 6 week mark. I will tell you now, shit will hit the fan. That innocent baby of yours will become the devil reincarnated. This may last for a few days and even up to a few weeks for some of you poor souls out there. If you hear nothing else, hear this: it will get better! Those horrific screams will slowly subside into laughter and smiles. At least, that’s what I have been told…

5. Lastly, if you do choose to breast feed, don’t ever let anyone undermine your feelings of frustration and despair. Breastfeeding can be hard. It puts all the pressure of sustenance onto one human being. Add to that the fact that you are feeding every 2 hours or so and you quickly begin to feel like nothing more than a milk machine! And yes, there may be production problems, allergy problems, and/or extreme gassiness problems. I’ve already had numerous meltdowns over breast feeding and have on occasion substituted formula just to give myself a break. DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT, feel like a failure if you choose to give your baby formula sometimes or all of the time. I was a formula fed baby and I turned out ok (if I do say so myself!) so turn a deaf ear to any naysayers out there! No one knows what’s best for you and your baby but you.

Perfectionist or not, the most important thing you can do is enjoy this time with your little one. Despite the screams, despite the messy house and dirty diapers and the sleepless nights, take pride in this little human you created and remember, there is a very bright, sparkling light at the end of this tunnel. It will all be worth it in the end!

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ps….for all you non-mommas out there, I will get back to the basics soon! Please bare with me while I revel in babydom for just a little longer Smile

My Everything…

I knew motherhood would be one of the most exciting, satisfying roles I could ever undertake, but to truly put into words how I feel is impossible.

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Truth be told, I didn’t feel an overwhelming sense of love and attachment the moment he was in my arms. I felt a sense of relief and awe, but a large part of me felt numb and incredibly humbled – it was all a bit surreal and I couldn’t quite fathom that this tiny being was mine.

Was I really allowed to take this perfect little person home?

But that love and attachment grew day by day as I began to accept that this little man truly was mine; that he was a part of me, dependent on me, and ready to be filled with all the love and joy and experience that I could offer. And dear God, I have a lot to offer.

Staring into that little face, my heart fills with an indescribable joy; my love and happiness are overflowing…

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…and I am so thrilled and grateful to not only embark on this journey into parenthood, but to share this journey with such a remarkable man, husband and father.

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I am a lucky girl indeed.

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Hello October.

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I can’t believe it is October already. With the cooler weather and the turning leaves, it already happened to be my favorite month, but now – now it becomes that much more special because it is the month my son will be born. My little Greyson. My mini man, my heart, my soul.

It seems like yesterday that he was just a part of my imagination. Then, one day, he suddenly became a reality. I didn’t know he was a HE at the time, just a tiny bean growing in my belly. But eventually, that little bean did become a boy, and he just kept on growing. And now, with only ONE week to go (hopefully…), it’s amazing to think that this reality will become even more real. And tangible. And squishy! I will finally have this wonderful baby boy in my arms. It’s mind-blowing, actually.

I can’t wait to revel in the joys of motherhood. And I know that it’s not all joyful – there will be some hard, hard days. And even harder nights. But they will all be meaningful and full of purpose, and to me, that will make them joyful (please remind me of this after a few weeks of no sleep…!).

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With this small shift in perspective (motherhood, that is), I now find myself drawn to an even wider variety of blogs. Blogs that are not only about home décor, DIY, and fashion, but Life in general, and Love, and Family. It’s so exhilarating to peek into the daily existence (and struggles) of a mother…

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…and it’s encouraging to read that despite these picture perfect images, every single one of these mothers had – and continues to have – her share of doubts, insecurities, and imperfections. Despite those bad days, weeks, and even months, they survived, and they remain fabulous mothers.

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Hello October. I look forward to the many challenges and unconditional love you will bring!

What’s On My Registry…

With just a little over two months to go and a baby shower coming up next weekend (woo hoo!) I wanted to share with you a few things from my registry.

Now, if you’re expecting and anything like me, you were – or are – absolutely clueless as to where to start. I actually began creating my registry at about month 3, researching some of the big ticket, gender-neutral items. And of course, in perfect Kristen fashion, I began stressing. I finally calmed down once I discovered the gender of my little bean (around week 22) and realized Aha!This should actually be a FUN process, not a stressful one! So, keeping my registry private, I then went a little crazy and began adding whatever struck my fancy.

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Like these guys from the Animal Prints Shop. How can I possibly resist baby animal prints for the nursery?!

Over the last month, I finally began weeding through the crazy and finalizing the registry to go public prior to the shower. And believe me, it is hard to weed through the millions of baby products out there because, well, it’s baby stuff – it’s all pretty darn cute! It’s easy to get lost in the cuteness of it all and fall into the opinions of everyone else. But what kept me sane was the thought that the registry was for me, not for everyone else. It was – is – a way for me to stay organized and keep track of what I think is best for my baby, my lifestyle, and my home.

So without further ado, here are a few of my favorite things from my registry:

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In my attempt to go a bit more organic/natural with baby products, I’ve been contemplating cloth diapers but figured that it would be way too messy and time-consuming to keep up with the laundering and sterilization of it all. And then I came across these beauties! gDiapers give you the best of both worlds: a reusable diaper cover made of 92% cotton, 8% spandex with a snap-in pouch of breathable nylon, and disposable, biodegradable inserts that are composed of cellulose rayon, fluffed wood pulp, and super absorber (all chlorine free, latex free, perfume free, and dye free). They come in sizes from newborn to large and a variety of colors and patterns. The bottom line is – they are safe, environmentally friendly, and most importantly, pretty darn cute!

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Boppy Bare Naked Pillow with Pillow Protector and Organic Slipcover

Again, this is my attempt to go organic. You don’t have to go with an organic slipcover and there are many other options available. However, this is a time where I have taken the opinions and advice of others into account – Boppy pillows are supposedly an essential! These suckers not only provide the perfect ergonomic support when feeding, but they also transition into props for tummy time, play time, and learning to sit up. Meaning it is money well spent!

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Ok, this is neither organic nor essential but it’s super cute and I couldn’t help myself. And it looks insanely comfortable! Sometimes, you just gotta give in to the crazy, ok?!

Britax B-Agile & B-Safe Travel System

I did A LOT of research on strollers and read WAY too many reviews, but this is the stroller that I determined best fit our needs. Is it perfect? No. I’ve come to the conclusion that there really isn’t one perfect stroller out there! I would love for it to have more urban wheels and for the car seat attachment to be a bit smaller and lighter, but after testing it out at Buy Buy Baby and comparing it to others, it does seem to ride exceptionally smooth, folds and compacts easily (with the push of a button), and has multiple adjustments to keep baby comfortable. And per the reviews, it’s extremely durable and should last for years to come!

Bundleme Hat, Mittens & Booties – JJ Cole Collections

Again, just because it’s so darn cute! And with an end of October due date and Winter on its way, I think it is pretty essential…

For all you mommas out there, what are some of your favorite, can’t-do-without products? Do you have any must-have advice for us mommas-to-be?